I heard Will Smith say the words: ‘Just Decide’ in reference to fulfilling our deepest desires, and the words instantly resonated with me.
You may have heard a different version of the same message, but it is the simplicity of those two words that really struck a chord with me.
What sort of year are you going to have? Decide.
How is your future going to look like? Decide.
What relationships are you going to have? Decide.
Make a decision and see what emerges.
More often than not we place both credit and responsibility for our own happiness onto others.
And yet we could do a lot more both in our relationships, communication with others as well as in terms of how things turn out for us in life and career.
How does it actually work?
Once you know what you want, get excited about your future and BELIEVE that what you have always wanted is now possible. It is the belief that holds the key to success.*
If you DECIDE in your heart and then in your head that you are going to have the most amazing relationship, career or a job, business venture, or the best year (however these mean to you, however you visualise and think of) then your whole being changes:
Your responses to people change from hostile, aggressive, defensive to more curious and inviting.
Your reactions to undesirable or challenging situations change from anger and frustration to acceptance, enjoyment or maybe even excitement.
Your ability to accept the reality for what it is increases as you know that whatever comes your way is just a part of the next lesson to move you forward.
However you perceive the reality, determines what questions you are going to ask.
Instead of asking yourself: “Why is this happening to me?” or saying: “Here we go again, another proof that I cannot be happy!” ; you would say: “I wonder what I am meant to learn from this?”.
Note: we can only ask the right questions, like the last one, once we KNOW what we want, we BELIEVE we can have it and we DECIDE that that’s how it is going to be.
Once you decide that it is going to be the best year for you, your attitude to problems, emotional reactions in stressful situations will shift. Your anxiety will cease and your energy will match that which is required for you to envisage the best future for yourself.
If YOU don’t know what you want, if you don’t believe you can or if you haven’t DECIDED yet, come along to my ‘Deliberate Planning and Living’ workshop on 24 January in Perth. Details and registration below:
P.S. * Some beliefs will prevent you from succeeding, but others will enable the positive action. In my case (at par with working on my limiting beliefs of course) it was a matter of finding the belief that helped medecidea positive future outcome. Let me know if you want to discuss your specific situation with me or have any questionshere.