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Just Decide.

I heard Will Smith say the words: ‘Just Decide’ in reference to fulfilling our deepest desires, and the words instantly resonated with me.

You may have heard a different version of the same message, but it is the simplicity of those two words that really struck a chord with me.

  • What sort of year are you going to have? Decide.

  • How is your future going to look like? Decide.

  • What relationships are you going to have? Decide.


Make a decision and see what emerges.


More often than not we place both credit and responsibility for our own happiness onto others.

And yet we could do a lot more both in our relationships, communication with others as well as in terms of how things turn out for us in life and career.


How does it actually work?


Once you know what you want, get excited about your future and BELIEVE that what you have always wanted is now possible. It is the belief that holds the key to success.* 

If you DECIDE in your heart and then in your head that you are going to have the most amazing relationship, career or a job, business venture, or the best year (however these mean to you, however you visualise and think of) then your whole being changes:

  • Your responses to people change from hostile, aggressive, defensive to more curious and inviting.

  • Your reactions to undesirable or challenging situations change from anger and frustration to acceptance, enjoyment or maybe even excitement.

and

  • Your ability to accept the reality for what it is increases as you know that whatever comes your way is just a part of the next lesson to move you forward.


However you perceive the reality, determines what questions you are going to ask.


Instead of asking yourself: “Why is this happening to me?” or saying: “Here we go again, another proof that I cannot be happy!” ; you would say: “I wonder what I am meant to learn from this?”.

Note: we can only ask the right questions, like the last one, once we KNOW what we want, we BELIEVE we can have it and we DECIDE that that’s how it is going to be.


Once you decide that it is going to be the best year for you, your attitude to problems, emotional reactions in stressful situations will shift. Your anxiety will cease and your energy will match that which is required for you to envisage the best future for yourself.

If YOU don’t know what you want, if you don’t believe you can or if you haven’t DECIDED yet, come along to my ‘Deliberate Planning and Living’ workshop on 24 January in Perth. Details and registration below:

P.S. * Some beliefs will prevent you from succeeding, but others will enable the positive action. In my case (at par with working on my limiting beliefs of course) it was a matter of finding the belief that helped medecidea positive future outcome. Let me know if you want to discuss your specific situation with me or have any questionshere. 

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The Intention that Precedes every Goal Outweighs the Wording of that Goal

Goals can be transactional or transformational.

There are short term goals or steps, for which we take deliberate action, such as completing every day tasks, and then there are long term goals, which we set intentionally and which often take longer time and effort to realise.

For a long term goal to be accomplished we usually need to first transform and become the person who can achieve it.

THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN AN INTENTION AND A GOAL:

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A Goal What do I want? e.g. I want to get a new job.

An IntentionWhy do I want it? - e.g. I want to have more freedom and autonomy and a more balanced life.


Intention - asking 'why' will always be more significant than the goal itself. 


HOW TO BECOME MORE INTENTIONAL IN THINKING? 

To become more intentional, choose your thoughts wisely. If an un-intended thought emerges let it pass, accept its occurrence without judgement of yourself or that thought. Then choose a different thought , one that aligns with your intentional living. It takes practice for it to become a habit. What helps in the process is a physical shift of perspective.

SOME TRUTHS ABOUT INTENTIONS: 

  • You have impact on what happens through your intentions

  • Your intention is a reflection of who you are and what you want

  • Intention is the energy which flows into and through your actions, words and deeds

  • Whatever comes back to you is the direct reflection on what you intended and not on what you actually said or did

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Planning for 2019?...But What About The Year Behind?

Reflecting on the year that has been is just as important as planning for what's ahead of us. 

The purpose of reflections is to invite a new perspective, more gratitude and let go of what's been to embrace new. 

Find a peaceful place, make yourself a drink of a favourite beverage, put your feet up, take a deep breath in and reflect. 

Here is the list of questions you could ask yourself. Choose one, two or as many as you like to help you close the 2018 chapter and embrace 2019 without looking back: 

  • What new habit(s) did you embrace and how has it served you? 

  • What did you let go of in 2018? 

  • What are you still holding onto, which doesn't serve you? 

  • What did you learn about yourself in 2018? 

  • Who or what made the biggest difference and how? 

  • What are you the most grateful for in 2018? 

  • What was your biggest achievement? 

  • How did you overcome challenges - what worked and what didn't? 



I would love to hear from you if you would like to share your reflections?  

Please email me your comments or realisations about this process. 

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