It’s not them we dislike — it’s the version of ourselves we become in their presence.
There are times we struggle to be ourselves with someone else - we may find ourselves shrinking, bracing, over-explaining, pleasing or withdrawing.
And deep down, something in us whispers:
This isn’t me or the one I want to be.
This is not personal. It is physiological.
The Nervous System is The Hidden Layer of Leadership
Our reactions are not just emotional habits—they’re often nervous system responses.
Fight. Flight. Freeze. Fawn. We know the terms, but rarely do we connect them with our everyday leadership and relational dynamics.
When our nervous system is dysregulated:
We confuse survival mechanisms with truth.
We make decisions from urgency, not clarity.
We perform instead of lead.
We disconnect from our self-trust.
Most leadership development skips over this entirely.
But the nervous system is not separate from self-awareness, self-regulation or the overall emotional intelligence. It is the foundation of it.
Leading From Within Means Feeling From Within
To lead others well, we must first lead ourselves.
That means we need the capacity to:
Sit with our own discomfort instead of numbing it
Stay present with others without absorbing or performing
Say ‘no’ when it’s easier to say ‘yes’
Honour our truth without needing external permission
But we can’t do any of that when our inner system is on high alert.
Regulation isn’t the goal—it’s the access point.
What lies beyond it is what we’re really after:
Clarity
Presence
Discernment
Authentic relating
Effective leadership
Why I Work on Two Paths?
In both the corporate and the personal spaces I work in, people seek change when something feels off.
Sometimes it’s a disconnection from their team or purpose.
Sometimes it’s overwhelm.
Sometimes it’s recurring patterns in relationships.
Sometimes it’s a longing to feel more “like themselves.”
Regardless of the entry point, the path is the same:
Reconnecting to inner clarity and calm.
That’s why I offer my work through two lenses:
The practical, high-functioning world of leadership, performance, and business
The introspective, intuitive space of nervous system work, emotional intelligence, and self-trust
Two languages. One purpose.
To guide people back to who they are, so they can lead, love, and live from that place.
In a world that keeps offering quick fixes and surface tactics, this work is about coming home.
Not with more input.
But with deeper integration.
Ready to explore this work for yourself or your team?
I offer leadership support, inner reconnection work, and facilitated spaces where your truth is welcome.