The Shame About the Shame
There’s fear, rage, sadness.
And then, there’s the shame we feel for even feeling those things.
We judge our reactivity or we regret our silence.
We punish ourselves for being “too much,” “too angry,” “too soft.” But the real weight we carry isn’t the emotion itself. It’s the belief that feeling it makes us unworthy. Broken. Less than….
It’s the shame about the shame that fractures us most.
That’s where the performance begins:
Trying to prove we’re okay. Trying to hide the parts that don’t “look healed.”
But what if the power isn’t in perfection, what if it’s in integration?
When you stop splitting yourself into good or bad, strong or weak, lovable or unlovable…
Something changes.
You reclaim the part that lashes out.
You sit with the one who hides.
You begin to trust your own wholeness, even in your chaos.
Because real power lives in that wholeness. Not in being polished. But in being real.